Sexual education for teenagers

How time flies! As if only yesterday the baby was taken to school... You remember how fussed, buying him his first school uniform, the first portfolio and can't forget the tears of joy that were in your eyes the 1st of September and those alarms that occurred in the first training days... You look at the pictures. Here he became oktyabrskom, then a pioneer. Here is his comrades. Them now and newsnet, grew, grew, became quite different.
First of all your children to become more independent. Of course, you notice that much, they now seek to solve on its own, peculiar. And if you try to criticize, to laugh at those poor Autonomous decisions, often unknown earlier conflicts. You see the tears, the resistance and perseverance.
"What is that to them? - you wonder. Maybe someone bad influence? Or else what?". Not worth the time to find the reasons. They clear: children moved from one age to another, from one period of life - in a new complex, in the teenage years.
Adolescence is not accidentally called difficult or even critical, as it marks the transition from childhood to youth. "Teenager, " wrote N. K. Krupskaya,is no longer a child, he has a keen interest to everything around him, very much, a very great desire to work physically and mentally".
And you see that the activity of the adolescent is no longer what it was before. It now attracts not so much the process of activity as the objective and the result of this activity. He is not just happy collects waste paper or tidy library books, and seeks to make it better, more interesting... He's not just loves to read, and selects the most interesting, the most "heroic" books, those in which describes the exploits and adventures.
He becomes a dreamer, romantic... No, before it was not.,. It's all you can say to convince... even to curse us. And now? Any, even the most innocuous remark reproach in his address, cry cause a storm... He already does not accept these forms of treatment, He becomes irritable and nervous, withdrawn and sad... What happened? Began a new period of adolescence, which is divided into the following periods: prior to puberty, puberty and sexual maturity.
In the first period (11-12 years) increases the activity of the pituitary gland, especially the anterior lobe, and thyroid. It stimulates growth and increases the metabolic processes in the body. The pituitary and thyroid hormones affect the development of the sex glands.
In the second period (12-14 years) become operational sex glands. Rapid extension of the skeleton (the girls better than boys), as well as its ossification. With the rapid elongation of the body do not have time to grow chest cavity, pelvis, and they seem narrow-chested, long. Muscle tissue develops more slowly, which entails and clumsy movements. Children of this age, especially girls, often secretly from his awkwardness, and any rough estimation of their appearance or sarcastic remark hurt them hurts.
During this period, many adolescents become lonely, deep in their feelings, interests. Attempts to learn, to understand the reasons of this or that deed, sharp requirements parents to admit something do not have success. On the contrary, insistent orders disruptive nervous condition, tears, and sometimes rude... How much you need to have a stroke, a good parent tact, in order to understand this new child's condition and to refrain from sharp order, rebuke, reprimand... Remember, as you yourself was difficult at this age, to refrain from harsh words from the nervous flash and related reckless behavior!
Teenagers, being in the process of puberty and testing in connection with this, a great reconstruction of the whole body, tired quickly become boring, dull, pensive... on the one hand, they are energetic, active, cheerful, with another - a slow, dull, passive. This comes from the fact that due to puberty was broken life balance, established in the early school years.
N. K. Krupskaya wrote about teenagers: "This is the most restless, the most critical, the unbalanced age. At this age, especially afraid teenager foreign influences, especially closed and often prefers a book than living an older man that he even good" *.
Came the time of prosperity of the mental and physical properties of the individual, mugania former child.
The third period, which ends mainly to 14-15 years, marks the beginning of puberty. At this time ends the process of ossification of bones, destroyed disproportion in the development of the bones of the limbs and trunk, grows and develops muscles and increases efficiency. Older teenagers now become more harmonious, more established, aesthetic. Disappears and "intolerance", irritability, architect... But for now... Until difficult, very difficult. Sometimes you are angry and upset by the fact that, despite your efforts, chores, participation, son or daughter indifferent and do not know how to assess either rendered attention or warmth...
"Ungrateful, " I think you are in the hearts - every girl (boy) listens more than the parents." Your anger and irritability increase the condition of alienation and even hostility that is unknown when it became a teenager. Previously, trustful, sincere, sensitive, he was now in a strange, distant, strange...
Still, try to understand it: he was a teenager and I can't, not yet learned to manage its rapid development, struck him with a flurry of new unrest, interests and concerns.
Remember that increasing your irritability, and disobedience of the child will be in proportion to the increase of its hostility toward you. Your teen will instead make every effort to do everything their own way, not to obey you, to insist on. Occurs and can, under favourable conditions, to strengthen his new negative quality - negativism, indicating it is still weak will. For the young person negativism acts as a "defensive reaction against encroachment adults on its independence. Especially painfully perceived by teenagers advice, comments adults about their relationships with their peers, with the representatives of the opposite sex.

* N. K. Krupskaya. Pedagogical work. Publishing house of APN of the RSFSR, M., 1959, so-3, page 248.