About youth love

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Perhaps no parents who would have thought in a teenage on the formation of feelings from their children. "Think, " say many parents - even milk on the lips, she (he), and back in it,,, I love". Well, what it (he) understand this? Yes and it is still too early to think about it, still have time, will nostradats will namuchalsya".
You obviously caught, what is mean shade is given to the evaluation of young feelings? And connect it somehow mostly with suffering, flour, etc., And unless these conditions is accompanied by the feeling? And unless the parents are not experienced in my time incomparable joy, delight, the desire to embrace all, turn the mountains and smile simple, easy and wanton world: and the sun, and the sky, and even the autumn boring rain?.. Unless love is only suffering? And let this feeling sometimes causes of suffering, still it's fine. Fine and noble, forever and new...
So why you don't want your kids to like? This feeling, regardless of the wishes still come, will arise and develop... And it should be regarded as natural, and it is a natural process of life... And strive to do everything possible to ensure that young people have been drawn to him. We are sure that if you are younger school age has taught them beautifully and correctly communicate, respecting each other, if you were able to help them become already the young men's right to be friends, if you could be their closest adviser, the emergence of feelings of love will not become a family tragedy, will not cause the explosion of indignation, and the children - the opposition, the unwillingness to reckon with anyone and anything. Only in this case arose first feeling of the young man truly becomes a gift for him and for you.
"Woe to the heart, not fond of his youth",- wrote And. With, Turgenev. The first feeling is a special exalted state of mind, it is the rapid growth of intellectual and physical strength, it is a stimulus of human movement forward, to meet the challenges, the inspirer of the noble and good deeds and exploits... It finally powerful factor of the re-education of many negative personality traits...
We received a letter from a young student of Voskresensk. He's hot argued at a lecture about what love is nonsense, nonsense, it is not, etc... And now after 2 years a letter from him...
"...You remember I was arguing with you about love? No her why she all in the same spirit... to Me now is not ashamed to tell you very, very different: I was wrong. I did not know yet, as I am blind and deaf. I grew up in a family harsh, where not seen any affection or attention. Between father and mother always felt some coldness and aloofness... I didn't like, probably like me... And that's quite accidentally and unexpectedly I met Katya... I'm not going to describe all the same will not be able. She probably common, and I would rather not. You know, she is so... gentle, tender, attentive, caring. Do not think that our friendship is the most pure, the most beautiful. And I know, except Katie, I never and no one will be needed. I firmly believe that I will love her and to love life... I became different. You me remember? I still fly in the face then his pomatum suit, dirty collar, desiring to show his contempt for the debate of love. I loudest (remember?) laughed when the speakers gave examples of beautiful love. If you had now met, it is unlikely to be learned: I am not wearing a dirty shirt and iron suit. I don't spit carelessly on the ground during the meeting with the girls, not throw caustic wit. I go if not, on the ground... I'm happy, you know? Unfortunately, my face was the same, but Katya like she's not nasty. This is what I get, I do not know and do not believe...".
We quote this letter almost completely in order to show how unrecognizably changed under the influence of the first feeling very ordinary, loose and even in some degree cynical young man. Who knows whether young people to protect this feeling from adversity, but one thing is clear - it will remain forever for them and only a bright star, which will cover good light all of their lives.